Our daughters nowadays are straddling in two types of worlds, the first one is the world where no one blinks an eye for a woman running for office and the second one is a world wherein girls are being sexualized at a very young age. So, as parents, we often ask ourselves, “How can I raise my daughter to be well-rounded, confident and happy considering that their common role model now is a Disney princess?”
For all mothers of a daughter out there, I have good news for you! A recent study from the University of Essex showed that daughters who have “nagging” mothers were more likely to go to college, get employed with high paying jobs as well as avoid teenage pregnancy compared to those mothers who were calmer.
Ericka Rascon-Ramirez led the research team who followed the lives of 15,000 girls aging 13-14 years old from 2004-2010. The research discovered that parents with high expectations played an important role in the girl’s decision making. The expectation of the main parent, which is most of the time the mother, is said to be very influential. So that explains why mothers always get the credits for “nagging”. Wohooo!
Now that we know that being a nagger mom is an effective strategy, it’s time to know further the key steps to increase the self-esteem of our daughters. Here are the following:
Always tell her that you believe in her
In the same research done by the University of Essex, it showed that girls with parents who keep on saying that they could achieve whatever they set their minds to were successful in different fields. So, repeatedly give your daughters this message.
Introduce her on playing outside
Give your daughter the skills and the comfort on playing outdoors for this will fill a sense that her body could give her strength as well as teach her to take the healthy risks. Debbie Reber, a teen advocate said that when you push your daughters to go outside their comfort zone, they will later realize that no matter the outcome is, they know that they have the strength to face any challenge.
Pursue her passions
Ellen Galinsky, the author of Mind in the Making said that showing your daughter that you support her interest matters most. You should take her interest seriously as well as help her build on those so that she has a passion for something.
Help her appreciate her look
Show your daughter your love for your own body no matter what your size and shape, and she will eventually do the same for herself. Never criticize your body in her presence.
Enroll her in sports
Signing up your daughter for sports could make her appreciate her body for its strength and not just mere beauty.
Be interested in her academics
Let her know that academics is very important and you can do it by showing her that you are interested in her academic life. Show up on her school events, volunteer and always check on her homework.
For other tips about raising successful daughters, check this post.