Our habits can either save us or destroy us. Our patterns of doing things, including the way we think, are like mind programs that work automatically. Most of the time habits are a subconscious way of doing things like when we walk, we do not think about putting one foot in front of the other. Complex habits of driving to home from work sometimes surprise us thinking, “Oh my! How in the world did I get here?” Or when wake up in the morning and head directly to the toilet. These are the things that we do repeatedly that have been programmed in our mind, which became habits.
Fortunately, we are in control of our habits. We can start making new habits that can benefit us, and eliminate those that are not good for us. For leaders and coaches, there are also ways to build habits to become better at what we do. It’s essential to acquire healthy coaching habits to help our team grow and thrive. If you want to improve as a leader, here are the five habits of excellent leaders to begin with:
- Explaining expectations
- Asking questions
- Involving team
- Measuring performance
- Appreciating people
Begin with baby steps
Small steps lead to big places. When adapting a new habit, the first thought to keep in mind is to be patient with yourself. Change takes time and practice, and habits as well. The key is to start small, but maintain consistency. Healthy habits always begin with consistent baby steps, that will be eventually programmed in your mind.
As one of your initial steps to building good coaching habits, it’s important to know yourself. Analyze who you are and distinguish what you need to change in order to improve. Just like what they say, “your greatest liability is the one you are unaware of.” Thus, define your strengths and weaknesses so you can leverage your strengths, and polish your flaws.
Know your triggers
As a part of knowing yourself belongs the step of identifying your triggers. Sometimes, circumstances that we face push us back into our poor habits. For instance, when you are feeling stressed, you tell your team what to do, instead of asking for their input. It’s necessary to reflect on your triggers so that you can employ the 5 excellent habits stated above. Another trigger could be when things are running smoothly, and your team is doing good, everything is too smooth that you don’t feel comfortable. So you find something trivial and tell your team to improve, instead of appreciating and acknowledging your team’s good work.
You need to identify such triggers in your life so you won’t fall into making bad habits that can affect your team. Spend some time reflecting, and writing down the triggers that you need to neutralize, so you can consistently use excellent coaching habits.
Commit to the team
True leadership is about other people, not ourselves. Remember that every time you engage on a bad habit, a life in your team is affected. On the other hand, maintaining good coaching habits enhances a team member’s life and work, which will create a ripple effect to your business and yourself. Engaging in good habits do more than it does in your personal growth. It also helps the people around you, your business, and goals.
Know that every time you choose to engage in bad coaching habits, you are taking away opportunities for your members to grow. Letting your bad habits win over the good ones also means you’re robbing your team members’ ability to contribute, succeed and make a positive impact in your life, and other people’s lives. You must realize within you that there is a deeper purpose of building excellent coaching habits as part of your leadership. Accept changes, and share it with your team.